I always try to expose myself to differing viewpoints everyday. Yesterday, I listened to a podcast entitled Wives Who Withhold Sexual Intimacy - How Feminism Erodes Christian Marriage and encountered many horrific assertions. The horror comes from the fanatical way that these men attempt to manipulate women in order to submit to their sexual needs. Submission is also a common theme of Islam, and there is no denying that the Quran speaks of women as a lesser being than their male counterparts. However, due to the fact that the podcast deals with Christian marriage, I want to take a moment to speak to Christian women as an individual who yearns for equality. This is for all of my female friends who find themselves allaying their beliefs with the poison of Christianity.
One of the claims made within the episode arises when one of the hosts talks about the "radical shift" in the way Americans view sexuality and gender. He says, "I like to tell husbands their job is not to make their wives happy. Many men think that's their job . . . but their job has never been to make their wife happy. Their job has been to make their wife holy" (2:57). What kind of benefit does holiness bestow within the world? Holiness, as far as we are concerned, is an adjective completely dependent on supernatural speculation. Happiness (or, more accurately, the chemical equivalent to happiness) is an actual phenomenon that affects a person's mental capabilities. One can observe happiness with modern technology. Holiness is a noble idea, but one that is void of any real value.
Another sickening bit of commentary from the podcast deals with women's sexual power over men:
Here's an article from ChristianMarriageToday.com by Wanda Collins, she asks 'Ok, my Christian sisters, have you ever resisted sex with your husbands if things don't go your way? If you are, you must stop this behavior immediately. First of all, this kind of behavior is not all pleasing to your heavenly father. The word of God says in 1 Corinthians 7:5 that husbands and wives should not deprive each other from sex unless it's for the purpose of prayer and fasting. Secondly, withholding sex from your husband is a form of passive aggressive behavior. It's your attempt to punish him for something he did or did not do. It's your way of controlling your husband instead of submitting to your husband. This is not good. You are playing a dangerous game. Your husband will feel angry, rejected, and undesired. Eventually these feelings can create an open door for sexual sins such as pornography and adultery enter into your marriage' (10:23).There is so much apparent corruption within this quote that commentary is not imperative. The bottom line is: young girls and women should not be exposed to this sort of forced submission. It is a tactic that originally appeared in the Bible to ensure the sexual gratification for men. It was designed by men for men. When women follow these teachings with unfaltering obedience, they are doing a disservice for their kind.